Questions to Ask Your Partner

Choose a kind of conversation

• Deep questions48 questionsValues, memories and the things you rarely say out loud.
• Fun questions49 questionsEasy, playful prompts for any night in.
• Funny questions48 questionsAbsurd hypotheticals built to make you both laugh.
• Love questions47 questionsRomantic questions about how you fell and why you stay.
• Would you rather questions48 questionsTwo options, one choice, and a reason why.
• This or that questions48 questionsRapid-fire pairs for quick, revealing answers.
• Spicy questions47 questionsFlirty and a little daring, kept PG-13.
• Getting to know you questions47 questionsThe basics, the backstory and the small details.
• New relationship questions46 questionsCurious, low-pressure questions for the first months.
• Long distance relationship questions46 questionsFor calls, texts and the days in between visits.
• Questions for married couples47 questionsFresh questions for partners who think they know it all.
• Questions to ask before marriage46 questionsMoney, family, home and the future, talked through early.
• Relationship check-in questions46 questionsA regular pulse check, with room for repair.
• Hard questions to ask your partner48 questionsSerious questions for honest, careful conversations.
• Road trip questions for couples47 questionsQuestions for long drives and slow date nights.

A few to start with

Three from every category. Each one links back to its full list.

1. What is a small moment from your childhood that you still think about more than you would expect? Medium Deep questions
2. What is something you believed about love when you were younger that you no longer believe? Deep Deep questions
3. Which version of yourself do you miss the most, and why? Medium Deep questions
4. If we opened a tiny restaurant with only three dishes, what would be on the menu? Light Fun questions
5. What is a snack combination you love that most people would find strange? Light Fun questions
6. If you could instantly master one hobby, which would you choose? Light Fun questions
7. If I were a household appliance, which one would I be? Light Funny questions
8. What is the most embarrassing thing you have ever said to someone you had a crush on? Light Funny questions
9. If our pet could talk, what is the first complaint they would make about us? Light Funny questions
10. What was the first thing you noticed about me? Light Love questions
11. When did you first realize you were falling for me? Medium Love questions
12. What is your favorite photo of us, and what was happening when it was taken? Light Love questions
13. Would you rather share one giant dessert or each get your own small one? Light Would you rather questions
14. Would you rather have a kitchen that always smells like fresh bread or a bedroom that always smells like clean laundry? Light Would you rather questions
15. Would you rather slow dance in the grocery store or sing a duet at a crowded karaoke bar? Light Would you rather questions
16. Sunrise walk or sunset drive? Light This or that questions
17. Pancakes or waffles on a lazy morning? Light This or that questions
18. Big spoon or little spoon? Light This or that questions
19. What is a small gesture of mine that you find unexpectedly attractive? Light Spicy questions
20. What outfit of mine is hardest for you to ignore? Light Spicy questions
21. When did you first want to kiss me? Medium Spicy questions
22. What is a food you loved as a kid that you would still happily eat today? Light Getting to know you questions
23. Which song can you not help singing along to, even in public? Light Getting to know you questions
24. What was your favorite hangout spot as a teenager? Light Getting to know you questions
25. What did you tell your friends about me after our first date? Light New relationship questions
26. Did you tell any friends about our first date, and what did you say? Light New relationship questions
27. What is your ideal low-key date for the next few weeks? Light New relationship questions
28. What is the first thing you want to do when we are in the same city again? Light Long distance relationship questions
29. What snack would you mail me right now if you could? Light Long distance relationship questions
30. What is something in your room you would show me on a video tour? Light Long distance relationship questions
31. What is a small household habit of mine you secretly find endearing? Light Questions for married couples
32. Which meal we make at home would you pick for your last dinner on earth? Light Questions for married couples
33. What is the funniest misunderstanding we have had since we moved in together? Light Questions for married couples
34. Where in the world would you most like to live if work did not matter? Light Questions to ask before marriage
35. What does your dream weekend morning in our future home look like? Light Questions to ask before marriage
36. Are you a small-wedding person or a big-party person, and why? Light Questions to ask before marriage
37. What was the best moment we shared this week? Light Relationship check-in questions
38. What is one thing I did lately that made your day easier? Light Relationship check-in questions
39. On a scale of one to ten, how rested do you feel right now? Light Relationship check-in questions
40. What is a harmless opinion of yours you know I disagree with? Light Hard questions to ask your partner
41. Which of my habits annoys you most, and be honest? Light Hard questions to ask your partner
42. What is a small lie you have told me to be polite? Light Hard questions to ask your partner
43. Who controls the music on this trip, and what is the veto rule? Light Road trip questions for couples
44. What is the perfect gas station snack combination? Light Road trip questions for couples
45. Which song do you think we will have heard too many times by the end of this drive? Light Road trip questions for couples